A psychology based approach to quit porn and repair your life and relationships.
I'm Jeffrey Ly, M.A. I help high functioning men end compulsive pornography use and repair the relationships it has quietly cost them. Since 2020 I have worked with more than 2,400 men on this one specific problem.
Why I built ARISE
I did not come to this work from the outside. I know this pattern from inside it, and from the other side of it, and it is that combination that shaped everything about how ARISE works.
What I could not find anywhere was a path that was clinical rather than shaming, that did not require a particular faith to work, and that treated a grown, high functioning man like an adult with a solvable problem. Most of what existed was either a white-knuckle streak counter or a sermon. So I built the program I could not find.
How the work actually goes
Compulsive use is a psychological and relationship pattern, not a willpower failure and not a moral one. It moves through three layers, in order, because skipping the first is why most attempts fail.
Psychological
Understand the psychology driving the urge and learn to regulate your emotional state, so the moment stops running you before any decision is even possible.
Emotional
Meet what the behavior was quietly managing, so the pattern loses the job it was hired to do.
Relational
Rebuild the trust and intimacy the pattern eroded, so the change holds in the one place it has to.
A little about my background
- Graduate clinical training. A Master of Arts in Clinical Psychology with an emphasis in Marriage and Family Therapy from Azusa Pacific University (2020).
- Time in the field. Former Associate Marriage and Family Therapist (AMFT), with experience in behavior change, addiction, and community mental health.
- Where this started. I began clinical work in 2019 inside one of the largest addiction recovery centers in Los Angeles, where I saw compulsive pornography use treated as a real, workable clinical problem well before the wider field caught up.
- The record since. More than 2,400 men, focused on one specific problem in one specific population rather than a little of everything.
My aim is bigger than any one man's recovery. It is to make the psychology based, shame free path the default any man can reach.
In their words
"Jeff was the light on a long dark night. Without his help I would still be fumbling through this thing called life, more lost than ever. His guidance reached my bruised emotions and the lack of confidence I needed to clear this massive hurdle. Wherever life takes me, this experience will be there the whole way."
"Jeff listened and genuinely understood my situation, so his advice was pinpointed. He helped me see my blind spots in a courteous way and challenged me to face them. I learned principles that help me overcome porn, and my relationship got much better."
"Being able to talk about it was huge. I was really hard and abusive to myself, and Jeff got me to work on being nice to myself and giving myself some grace. He helped me build real skills, like learning to speak to my higher self."
My promise to you
I will be there to work with you and support you at every step. With the comprehensive Recovery Roadmap, you always have a clear path for progress, so you can finally break free of pornography and repair your life and your relationships. And if I ever believe you would be better served by licensed therapy, I will tell you directly.
Where to start reading
- Why counting days misses what actually drives compulsive porn useThe idea underneath everything ARISE does.
- Porn-induced erectile dysfunction, explained without the panicThe body side of it, in plain terms.
- How to heal from betrayal traumaThe relationship layer, written for the partner too.
See where you actually stand
A private, two minute clinical self assessment. No account, nothing to say out loud. It shows you the pattern driving this and your single biggest lever.
Take the Severity Profile